They didn't quite get the attunement they needed while they were growing up. Most people come in because they kinda had a combination of both. They only in their life had a car accident. Very few people when they'll come into my office will just have one experience. And then the last category of types of trauma is complex. So the care giver relationship, if their isn't that attunement, doesn't create a template for safety that's needed in the world. And we need each other, we need our environments to give us a reflection of what's okay to approach and what should be avoided. They do understand the coos or the eye gaze or the touch or the closeness or the tone that's around them, and that's what creates safety.Īnd really at the heart of all of this work, it's how do we know we're safe or we're not. Attunement especially in the earlier years, from zero to two, really happens in a nonverbal way. This developmental piece is really important. So an example of this might be a child really crying and whining cuz it's hungry or tired and the care giver just being exhausted and overwhelmed and just like, "Why are you doing this to me? You're such a bad kid." and just not kind of giving the reflection of the needs that need to met. Their needs weren't really being seen or met. Developmental trauma is really when children in their development weren't attuned to by the parents. In addition to the shock traumas, there's also developmental trauma. So the smaller things can make a big difference. This could be natural disasters, car accidents, war, attacks, falling off a bicycle, sometimes we forget that even the small things can be really overwhelming to a system and remember the earlier on these things happen to a brain, the bigger they feel. It's something that happens too quick, too fast. Now it can come in from a couple of different events. On a broader level, trauma's really a breach of boundary and border at the physical, mental, emotional or even behavioral levels. When this happens earlier on in someone's life, especially like in childhood, it's harder for that individual to regain balance and kind of organization and direction.Įspecially without the help of an adult or care giver to guide that.
Trauma's really an overwhelm of stress is really when the physical or emotional body is overwhelmed and the person just kind of can't come back into organization from it. What actually is trauma? Let's go a little bit deeper into to it to try to understand. That if you help connect the mind and the body and allow it to do what it does, there can be healing, there can be space and there can be a new lease on life.Ī connection to your own vitality. Only now is the recent scientific field in neuroscience field starting to substantiate what they knew thousands of years ago. They knew that there was a direct mind body connection. Our bodies have an organic intelligence that can help re regulate after these experiences, can help re regulate our minds, our hearts, and our systems. But living with that, it does not have to be a life sentence. Trauma and stress are an inevitable piece of life. But the reality is is that we can't stop stress and we can't stop traumatic events from happening. In fact many of us try to do that, we try to manage where we're going to go, who we're going to be around, what our actions are just to keep everything tight so we don't ever have to experience that stuff that's really intense.
It would be great if we could stop stress and traumatic experiences from happening in our lives. But an overwhelm of stress on the system actually is pretty toxic for your body and for your mind. We need stresses in order to build our resilience and our strength and often times it's really what makes us who we are. Life is stressful, you know, and that's not necessarily a bad thing. I'm here to talk today a little bit about stress, trauma and it's impact on the body.
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